Oh My God!!

The other day, I complained of boredom due to lack of mental stimulation. Guess what? I've been receiving lots of friend requests lately. First, it was a request from a Nepalese. Then, a Tibetan guy. Just now, I received another one from a guy from India. So, who's next?? Perhaps, a Mongolian or a Vietnamese??? Haha...

Woot...?? My Seduction Style??? LOL...

Your Seduction Style: Prized Object

The seduction game you play is tried, true, and still effective: hard to get. You know that the best seducers turn the tables - and get their crush to seduce them. The one running has the power, and you're a challenge that is worth the chase. You are a master of enticing and pulling back. Giving a little and taking some away. You are controlled enough to know rewards come after a long seduction dance. Even though you want to call, email, or say "I love you" first - you don't! You're style is the perfect mix of hot and cold - so much so that you have many suitors. Think Holly Golightly from Breakfast at Tiffany's ... or any of those creepy guys from the Bachelor. You're skilled at inspiring a chase. The real test is picking the person to slow down for.

What Kind of Seducer Are You?

Selamat Hari Raya

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

Maaf Zahir & Batin

P/s: Special raya dedications to my Malay friends, Rose, Achik and Fara. Thanks for being there for me. Love you all! =P

I've been cursed!

Firstly, I feel bored. I could push myself to do anything to get rid of boredom but I'm lazy. So, here I am, chatting with a few peeps. I told a friend my condition and he said I'm in a flirty mood. Hah! Is there such a thing?? Oh well, I guess it must be due to the lack of mental stimulation lately.

I could 'cure' this so-called flirty mood with just a click. All I need to do is to search for a few new fellas to chat with BUT I can't. Shit! I just can't do that anymore. I know it's just a temporary fun, and you get to know lots of new friends but I just can't do it. I'm scared. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me but I'm afraid of searching for someone new to chat with. I told another friend about this and she said it's probably the side effect from that bloke (I'm not gonna link this time). Shit!! How could that be???

On another note, I guess searching for new peeps to chat is not a good idea. You know...I always have the tendency to meet or know or even add the wrong person into my MSN list. Really. This is no joke. I've actually chatted and flirted with perverts and even married man. Yes, I've once flirted with a married man. He told me he was single but I found out his true identity through another friend. Believe me, this is something bad. I've never thought of myself, flirting with someone else's husband. OH please!!! I felt terrible! I've never wanted to spoil people's family. After all, he was just a temporary flirt. Just someone to reduce boredom. And he was never my guy type. I ignored and deleted him off my list. But he was really interested. It took me months to stop him from calling.

I think I've been cursed. Want to know why??? Coz all the time I'm linked to men who can never be anyone special. Blah!! I'm not complaining of being single, you idiot! Maybe it's just a sign that I'm not supposed to be a woman. Or a sign that I should be born earlier. Need examples??

I've seen many eligible men, meaning they fit my type. Everything was perfect, with smiles and the eye electrocutions, then later, I'll see something I don't wanna see. No, it's not his banana, you perverts! It's the ring!! OMG!! This fella is married! Damn!! The fun is spoilt. So, this is the first example. Yes, I know this is silly but it has happened umpteenth time ok! Well, you tell me, isn't that a sign that I've been cursed??

Ok, here goes another example. I met another eligible man. Everything seems perfect until I get to know his background. No, he's not the son of a gangster but he has the same surname. Being a Chinese, it is believed that we cannot marry or be with someone of the same surname. So, you tell me, is this suey enough???

So, the bottom line is, I've been cursed. Those eligible men are either married, have the same surname or already have a steady girlfriend. Oh please don't ask me to change my guy type criteria. I can never follow my friend's style. She told me, "If there's no fish, any prawn will do". It means if she can't find any eligible man, she'll be ok with any idiots Tom, Dick or Harry. If I were to apply her concept, I guess I'll have a total of 14 boyfriends in a period of four years. Haha...I'd rather be single than to simply accept anyone!

OMG!! I've been cursed!

Lesson of the day

Today's lesson is about a familiar word in our lives. COMPARE.

So, do you compare yourself with the others out there, your peers, family members or colleagues? Ever since young, everyone around me loves to compare. I personally hate this word. This poisonous word often generates hatred and jealousy. And it's the main reason behind the warfare in certain parts of the globe today.

I confess I'm a victim of this word too. No, I don't like to compare but people just loves to compare, either themselves or the other people around them with me. Some of them are extended (so-called) family members, friends, acquaintances, course mates, past histories (men in my life), etc. So, what is actually wrong with all these people?? Can't they pass each day without comparing??

I dislike anyone who loves to compare. So what if you're richer? So what if you're pretty/handsome? So what if you're popular? So what if you get better grades in exam? So what if you come from a popular school? So what if you managed to enter an ivy league university? So what if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Whatever you have now might not last forever. Whatever you have now can never follow you into the coffin when you leave this world. You were born naked. You will die just the same way.

Each of us enter this world with different missions in life. With differing objectives and perception, we live life our own way. Some may think that wealth is everything while the others may prefer happiness. So what's the point of comparing??

Be realistic. I would say grow up if I need to. What you (we) used to compare back in school days can never be the same anymore. You might have compared yourself to someone else, and think that you're much better off than him/her today. But, how do you define better?? Does the word "better" have any quantitative value? Can we apply the hypothesis testing or do some feasibility studies on that word itself?? No. It's just what you believe. It's just a way to feel better or fool yourself when you blindly compare yourself to the other person again.

So, why do you (or we) like to compare? Can't we just leave that 'comparing habit' after we've stepped out of school?? Until today, I could still feel the effects of that word. Because of all those people who have once compared (or are still comparing) themselves or other people with me, I've changed. Luckily, it's a positive change. Well, I wouldn't elaborate much on how the word has changed me but this word is truly poisonous.

Thanks to the education system and trend of comparing, I used to compare myself to other people, mostly peers. It gets stressful when I started comparing weird things. Even though I compare less these days, I could still sense the habit of comparing around me. I have a so-called auntie who loves to compare her kids with me. Everytime I meet her, she'll say this. "Wahhh, you're so smart. I WILL make sure my kids get such results for their major exams. Or else, I'll kick them out of the house". Poor kids. I really pity her kids. Just because of her mentality, her kids have to endure the ugly side of childhood and adolescence.

There's another one who loves to compare. He is dad's colleague's son. He's an ex-schoolmate in Primary School. He is just like his father. Both of them love to brag and compare. He's currently studying in one of the not-so-popular universities in US. I found his blog recently and he's still the same after so many years. He's comparing his university to the local ones here. Ok, I respect his freedom to blog but there's something I don't like about his father. Everytime when he meets me, he'll say the same old thing. "How is your studies? My son is doing VERY well in university. Do you have a boyfriend? My son has a girlfriend". I feel irritated whenever I meet him. I just have to swallow every crap he says as I don't want to portray a lousy image that might humiliate dad.

I just don't get it. Why must some people make their (or other peoples') lives miserable by comparing? Does comparing make you feel any better? There's this girl who was in the same class with me for business studies during Form 6. As she was a bit slow in studies, she came to me almost everyday, telling me the same thing. "I wish I could be like you!" And because of that statement, she struggled like mad just to get half of my results. I'm not trying to brag or despise her. It's just so sad that she has this kind of mentality. It's good that she strives to succeed but it's not a good idea to compare to that extent. She told me no matter how, she has to win me.

It's true that the word compare is important in certain things. For instance, we need to compare the changes in a business to measure how much it has deviated from the original standards. We have to compare health reports to check how much a person's health has deteriorated. BUT, do you see the difference?? We are not only using that word for business, medical or other purposes. We are currently abusing that word. And I just hate it.

As you (we) grow older, it's rather useless to compare as certain things can NEVER be compared. For example:

• How many husbands/wives/kids do you have?? (You can't be bragging on these things, can you?
• How many certificates/degrees/masters/PhDs...do you have? (You could have all these qualifications and can go ahead and compare but that someone could be earning much more than you! How's that?)
• Is your sex life better than mine or how many times have you done it? (Do you know how to compare this? LOL)
• He/she is much handsome/prettier than you. So, you've been ditched for that reason! (Please define pretty/handsome. If someone loves you, he/she will accept you for who you are, even your flaws! So, there's no need to compare!)
• He/she owns a big NEW house and car. So, he/she is definitely richer than you! (That big new house and car belong to the bank. Don't believe me? Go ahead and ask him/her. Only fools would buy something new that's so expensive with 100% cash! Or else, the banks wouldn't have any business to do!)
• He/she wears branded clothes and undergarments. So, he/she should be richer. (What makes you think so? You think she's rich just because she bought the Triumph's latest seamless bra which costs about RM179.90?? OMG!!)
• Everyone knows him/her. So, he's/she's much more popular than you. (In that case, why don't you publish your self portrait in the local dailies and in the internet??? You'll be popular within seconds!)
• His/her blog has more comments/ has been viewed more times than yours. So, he/she is famous in the blogosphere. (Do you really compare that?? OMG!! What's the use of blogging with an anonymous identity if you go around telling everyone or anyone you meet about it?)
  

So, is there a need to compare?? You have your own way of living, and I have mine. We don't need to compare every single thing in life. It's ridiculous! The more you compare, the more dissatisfied you become. If you really want or need to compare, make sure you look at yourself in the mirror first. For goodness sake, grow up!

Happy Deepavali

Happy Deepavali to all Malaysians!

P/s: Special Diwali dedication to my Singaporean 'boyfriend'. Hope you're doing fine there! ;)

Five Types of Women in Malaysia

Based on an article I read in the newspaper on Sunday, there are five types or categories of women in Malaysia:


The Classic -- "Rolling old times"

Down to earth, not materialistic and very thrifty. Mostly family-centred and believes in the good old values and virtues of the past. Strong believer in inner beauty and not bothered with trends.


Superwoman -- "Having the best of all worlds"

Excels in balancing career and family. She sees the importance of career but gives priority to family. She is more of a saver than a spender. She makes most of the decisions for the family.


Life Seeker -- "Living in a material world"

Most likely to be a single and living on their own. Independent and less family oriented. Enjoys travelling and shopping to get away from stress and having their own "me" time. Most impulsive of the lot when it comes to branded purchases. Less likely to worry about the future.


Privileged Carefree -- "Life is a joy ride"

They are less opinionated and enjoy a carefree and sheltered life. Compared with the other groups, they are more concerned about physical beauty. They enjoy hanging out with their friends, going to the movies, etc.


Cosmo Girl -- "The world is my oyster"

Most career-oriented of the group. She believes in the power of money - a measurement of success. She is tech-savvy, believes in keeping up-to-date with trends. Having said that, she is also a discerning consumer, would evaluate purchase but that does not stop her from buying what she likes.



So, which group am I in?? I'm a combination of two to three groups!!!

:)